On December 22, 2019, we lost my Tita Tin unexpectedly due to septic shock. Tita Tin was one of my favorite people in my whole family. In a family of eclectic personalities and a sea of resentment and conflicts – she was loved by everyone. It was untimely and tragic bringing together aunties, uncles, and many others who haven’t spoken to each other for years. She left the world too soon at the age of 42 leaving behind so many people that were impacted by her love and generosity. Her wonderful children were champs doing their best to be strong and we all managed to get through that week of hell. I wanted to let them grieve properly so I took it upon myself to step into the role of organizer and facilitator. I’d like to think that if the roles were reversed she would be there helping.
Tita Tin and I spent many times getting our nails done, eating Korean food, helping each other with errands, and giving me advice when I most needed it. She took on a mother figure role during the time I felt like I couldn’t talk to my own mother. She comforted me through my less than stellar moments and never judged me or scolded me. She would always tell, “Ne, it’s okay. You have your whole life ahead of you. You will be successful.” when I would bawl my eyes out about my uncertainties regarding the future. She would be there to celebrate my successes and hold my hand through my downtrodden moments. She always reminded me of the bigger picture and to be grateful for the present.
So for her 40th day since she’s passed – I want to think about her strength, perseverance, and love. Na hidlaw ko siya. I really miss her that at times I feel like she’s going to call me and talk about the newest food trends and share loving words. So this is for you. Tita Tin, you inspired me to be kinder and embrace life. I want you to know that I will be there for the kids and tito always. I will keep you in my heart forever, Tita Tin.
Morena Filipinx 